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assalamualaikum semua..how's ur day? hope everything's good..

well, mine is okay..with a little worry about life and what future has in store for us..
coming back to the title above, i think i would like to share my thoughts about having kids..
actually, i had a chat with one close friend..she was and still is one of the people i look up to especially her language proficiency..one of the few people i could confide in whenever i have problems and we would share secrets and thoughts..i love her though we don't contact each other as often as we should these days..

she got married before me..like early that year..and she told me that she is sad because she still couldn't seem to get pregnant..she wants to get pregnant so badly, maybe because she has reaches her 30s this year and her husband is like 3 or 4 years older than her..so time is ticking...they are getting older..she wants to get and to seek specialist's opinions and treatments...i told to go as soon as possible because as i said earlier, time is ticking and it waits for no man..i hope she can get pregnant as soon as possible..i really do..i think when she has a child she would stop thinking about other things..u see, she likes to think, a bit philosophical i think..an intelligent lady who likes to think about life and then get stressed about it..

u see, she has been married for almost two years now..at first, she told me that she wasn't ready to get pregnant and therefore she had family planning..i understand her, she's quite weak and vulnerable and get stressed easily..and to add to that, she had to travel every week for her master's classes..that's why she said she wasn't ready to get pregnant..

i told her that  we shouldn't plan our first child..never ever think of it..i have 2 reasons of why we should't plan our first child..

1) every child is Allah's rezeki..let us put it this way..kita tanak anak lagi sbb kita tak ready, kewangan tak stabil, atau sebab kita muda lagi, bila kita cakap mcm tu, sama lah seperti kita bgtau Allah yang kita tak ready nak terima rezeki dari Dia..atau dgn kasarnya, kita tanak rezeki Dia..perlu ke kita buat mcm tu..anak itu rezeki Allah yang paling berharga, lebih dari duit, pekerjaan dan usia..
my aunties cukup marah kalau ada ahli keluaraga yg cakap nak plan anak pertama..yelah, org dulu2 lebih makan garamnya sbb tu la diorg tau byk..
apart from my friend who i mentioned above, i have few friends who find it difficult for them to get pregnant..i feel sorry for them..but then again, i think that their difficulties are due to them not wanting get pregnant secepat mungkin..and sekarang dh susah nak pregnant sbb dulu tanak sgt2 pregnant..
tapi ntah la, semua rezeki Allah..

2) this is what my husband says : anak pertama jgn sekali dirancang sbb kita tak tau kesihatan kita mcm mana..cthnya la kan, kalao kita dh umur 30 nanti baru nak ada anak, pastu tak pregnant mesti kita stress kan..kita tak tau tahap kesihatan kita mcm mana..mungkin luaran nmpak sihat, tapi bahagian produktif kita tak sesihat yang kita sangka..then nak g berubat, jumpa pakar..tak ke dh amik masa yg lama utk semua tu..alih-alih 3 atau 4 tahun lepas tu baru berjaya pregnant..tak ke sayang sbb dh bazirkan masa, dgn duit sekali..at least kalo kita nak pregnant di awal perkahwinan tapi tak berjaya, kita dh blh usahakan dgn jumpa pakar ke berubat ke..dh jimat masa dan wang..

ini cuma pendapat saya..tak semestinya betul..semua manusia punya pandanganyang berbeza..ini ialah apa yg saya rasa dan sebab musabab yang saya sendiri fikir tantang kenapa kita tak perlu nak merancang anak pertama..